I will be using this blog as an educational tool as I am approaching “40″ soon…..

Wine, men, little english (meaning little small talk) sound great.

I will return for more pics….

Miss you!

There’s an intriguing irony we first “met” on Easter Sunday that isn’t lost on either of us. We both recognize the resurrection of our abilities to really care about a special someone and willingness to commit to one person.

In my case, I was pretty much resigned to going through life on my own. I had shut down all my profiles on all the dating sites on which I had posted. The day before I met Eileen I had had a date with an old friend I had been corresponding with off and on for almost three years (no, I’m not the type that Eileen described who possessed the inability to get to the meeting part of the process – the lady and I just never had the oppotunity to get together for one reason or another). I decided to keep the date because she is a nice person and I really wanted to meet her after all the time we had been corresponding. I figured this would be my dating swan song (unless we really connected). We met for lunch the Saturday before Easter and really had a nice time. But, there just wasn’t the “spark” you hope for when you meet someone and we both recognized this.

What DID come out of the meeting, though, was a willingness on my part to give it one more try. I realized isolating myself wasn’t the answer. On the way home from the lunch date I remembered a profile on Match.com of this really interesting and VERY attractive woman. We matched on 23 out of 25 matching criteria – pretty good in my book! She even lived in the town in which I grew up. So, about 8:30 on Easter Sunday morning I shelled out the 30 bucks for a full fledged membership on Match (you can post a profile for free but if you want to correspond with someone you have to ante up) and wrote a brief note to her.

To my surprise, I received a response from her in less than an hour. This made me a bit nervous; usually a rapid response like that meant “thanks, but no thanks.” Much to my relief it was a very nice and engaging note. Two more exchanges on Match and by that evening we were chatting on the phone. We haven’t looked back since.

I know that there is no “perfect woman” or “perfect man” – we all have our baggage. But I do believe there can be that person out there that is perfect for us. Eileen is as close to that as I’ll ever come.

If only she liked the Three Stooges…

Secondly, if you want to be a serial dater, you must first, foremost, and ALWAYS, be honest with the other person. You must be upfront with the fact that you are not yet ready for a monogomous dating relationship. This doesn’t mean you don’t like the guy (or guys); it means you’re not ready to settle down again – particularly so soon after coming to terms with the break-up of your last relationship and then deciding to put yourself “back out there”. You’re worth waiting for (however short or long that time frame may be). And if eHarmony Guy can’t see, or understand that you need time, then he’s definately not the one for you and it’s best to initiate an amicable split – ASAP.

Which brings me to my last point. If you have even the slightest feeling that you are settling for less with eHarmony Guy, then MOVE ON! YOU are in control – YOU are the Serial Dater. The moniker comes with the responsibility of personal empowerment; You are are the coach calling the shots (more sports!). So, play ball! (Yes, double entendre intended). Have fun and don’t feel guilty. But play fairly and with integrity. Remember, you are, and will always will be, a mobile unit. So date! And keep in mind, what may look like a frog on the outside may be, in fact, a prince on the inside.

I cannot wait!